We are all familiar with the concept of Mind Over Matter, but do we actually know what it really means? I thought I did, but I didn't ... until this weekend, when I completed the Benchmark Integrity Course.
I walked into the conference room of the Newport Marriott Resort and Spa on Thursday morning without a clue as to how the weekend would develop. I had been anxious about this 4-day course for quite some time, and even considered postponing it again. (I missed the February rendition to go to Hawaii, and the June one to have my tonsils removed.)
I was nervous as hell, and it seemed that I was the only one in the room who did not know someone else in the room - the lone wolf so to speak. Until actually writing that this very instant, I never made the connection of that particular piece to how I live my life. I have always been the one to volunteer to do the group project by myself. Always took on the independent work. Always hesitant to let other people take charge of something my name is on because I didn't really trust them to actually do it to MY standards.
As the course began, I soaked it all in in complete silence, observing more than participating. I did as I was told, did not break the mold, did not speak out of line, barely spoke at all. And as the day progress, I got more and more frustrated with the people in my "class" and on my "team". I was frustrated with the disengaged, the ones who laughed, and the ones who seemingly could not perform a simple task. BUT I did little to rectify the situation. I held back, because as far as I was concerned, it was their problem, not mine. Sounds like quite the team huh??
I am not going to go further into the details of the weekend, as I would rather everyone experience it for themselves. I highly encourage you to watch this short video on Benchmark Courses: https://vimeo.com/timokelley/review/130379249/beaafb9978
I will however share the 2 biggest things that I learned this weekend.
The first is something that when it was first said seemed incredibly too simple and yet hit me like a TON of bricks. Anything that has happened in your life happened FOR you, not TO you. How powerful is that way of thinking?!
There are so many things that I thought happened TO me, but in reality when I look back they happened FOR me.
The second thing is that I am who I am only because I think I am that. I can think I am anything and make it so. I am an open and outgoing woman. :)
If you are interested in learning more about Benchmark, please do not hesitate to reach out to me or visit their website at www.benchmarkcourses.com for additional information.
I was nervous as hell, and it seemed that I was the only one in the room who did not know someone else in the room - the lone wolf so to speak. Until actually writing that this very instant, I never made the connection of that particular piece to how I live my life. I have always been the one to volunteer to do the group project by myself. Always took on the independent work. Always hesitant to let other people take charge of something my name is on because I didn't really trust them to actually do it to MY standards.
As the course began, I soaked it all in in complete silence, observing more than participating. I did as I was told, did not break the mold, did not speak out of line, barely spoke at all. And as the day progress, I got more and more frustrated with the people in my "class" and on my "team". I was frustrated with the disengaged, the ones who laughed, and the ones who seemingly could not perform a simple task. BUT I did little to rectify the situation. I held back, because as far as I was concerned, it was their problem, not mine. Sounds like quite the team huh??
I am not going to go further into the details of the weekend, as I would rather everyone experience it for themselves. I highly encourage you to watch this short video on Benchmark Courses: https://vimeo.com/timokelley/review/130379249/beaafb9978
I will however share the 2 biggest things that I learned this weekend.
The first is something that when it was first said seemed incredibly too simple and yet hit me like a TON of bricks. Anything that has happened in your life happened FOR you, not TO you. How powerful is that way of thinking?!
- Being accepted into only 2 of the 12 law schools I applied to was a huge disappointment, but ultimately the decision to attend one of those 2 schools resulted in some very close relationships, the opportunity to travel, an excellent education, and an overall gratifying and enjoyable law school experience.
- Getting Mono in 2010 and having to move back in with my parents was horrible, but ultimately it lead me down the path toward health. It was the spark (or reality check) I needed to make my health and fitness a priority.
- Weight issues plagued me my entire childhood and young adult life. Now I know it was so that I can help people struggling with the same issues, with complete empathy and understanding, and inside view as opposed to an outside one.
There are so many things that I thought happened TO me, but in reality when I look back they happened FOR me.
The second thing is that I am who I am only because I think I am that. I can think I am anything and make it so. I am an open and outgoing woman. :)
If you are interested in learning more about Benchmark, please do not hesitate to reach out to me or visit their website at www.benchmarkcourses.com for additional information.
